Reframe Your Identity

no, we won't reframe our trauma to accomodate men with erotic target location errors

Of course Mridul Wadhwa has locked his twitter account, after using the word bigot to describe female rape victims who refuse male counsellors and preaching to them reframe your trauma. Of course he’s the victim, and all the angry women responding to Rape Crisis Scotland are abusive and evil. Of course he is and of course we are. That sound you heard was me kissing teeth while rolling my eyes. I’ll remind you that this man, who said bigots can be assaulted and therapy is political, got the job as manager of a Rape Crisis Centre in Scotland, intended for female people only, by lying about his sex. He claims the prospective employer did not ask him for a GRC (gender recognition certificate) and did not realise he was trans. Let’s keep in mind we are talking about a man who applied for a sensitive job open only to female people, misrepresented himself as a woman, and violated the single sex sanctity of a rape crisis centre.

This dude who lied his way into a job as a rape crisis manager, who refuses to centre clients/rape survivors in their own healing—demanding they centre him and validate his identity as a woman—is telling rape survivors to reframe their trauma. Ok. Can someone tell me why anyone is listening to this bloke? Can someone tell me why this guy is running a rape crisis centre? Can someone tell me why so many liberal feminists, the same ones who lost their hyperbolic sh1t over BelieveAllWomen and MeToo are now totally cool with the trauma responses of rape victims being declared bigotry? Why are we even entertaining the notion that any time a woman chooses to exclude men from her presence for whatever reason, she is a bigot?

Who the fcuk died and made Mridul and the AGP brigade the rulers of rape victims? We are not the validation haram of the AGP Brigade, FYI. Why the fuck do women who have been violated in the most heinous and frightening and ugly way need to centre men at all?? Seriously, why? CAN MEN NEVER LEAVE WOMEN ALONE, LIKE, EVER? LIKE, CAN YOU LOT EVEN HANDLE LEAVING US TO REPAIR OURSELVES FROM RAPE AWAY FROM MEN, EVEN THOSE IN DRESSES? WTF IS THIS BULLSH1T??

Rape victims typically do not want to be around men while we recover, get over it. We don’t. You can’t fool people. Humans have instincts. Fear and trauma responses are visceral, the need to own one’s own recovery and centre oneself, not any person posing as a therapists or counsel, is absolutely vital. Rape victims do not owe AGPs a fcuking thing, so GFY with that idea. Look, I get the AGP thing. I have tried to be patient and understanding, I have tried to humanise, however a man using the trauma of rape victims to validate his identity as a woman is fcuking s1ck sh1t. Do female people exist simply to validate narcissistic self loathing men with erotic target location errors? Seriously, he wants to talk about orgasmic rape and wants to politically indoctrinate rape victims who seek counselling?? AYFKM? Cuz, again, I ain’t laughing. When will the AGPs have received enough validation? Ever? At this point, they are looking like terrorists.

Perhaps if men really want to destigmatise AGP they could start calling out this behaviour as unacceptable, as actually the type of behaviour that contributes to the stigmatisation of AGP. Do the wokerati think the boundaries of women exist only for the dismantling of men? Are we a fcuking cosplay game for you all? Why do you not see our humanity? Why does the world value the delusions of fetishistic self-loathing asswipes over sexual reality and the safeguards required for a stable society? Any society is only as sound and morally stable as the way it treats its female people. So far this society looks like it heading for a massive nose dive, based on it’s sh1tty treatment of women.

AGP men have consistently exhibited malignantly narcissistic behaviour, have demonstrated a lack of self control when it comes to demanding validation from women and respecting our boundaries. Those of us with a history of domestic violence, rape or any kind of narcissistic abuse or violence against women will recognise the manipulation, gaslighting, lying, and boundary busting for what it is. That’s the first thing I spotted about the gender movement and wokery in general when I first came on the scene to all this 4 or 5 years ago. Here in Vancouver we have faced the city withdrawing it’s funding for a rape shelter which refused to change it’s female-only policy and we have a virally growing problem of sexual violence, including and especially rape in particular on the Granville Strip area of downtown Vancouver. Women on the street in the DTES have nowhere to go to escape men, not even the local DTES women’s centres provide a female exclusive refuge anymore. The identity of narcissistic men matters more than the safety of women.

Where do women turn to, when seeking help to overcome rape trauma? Nowhere, we turn nowhere. There is only ourselves. As a survivor of child sexual abuse, as a multiple survivor of rape, as a survivor of domestic abuse including 2 attempts on my life, I can tell you that no one helped me, and any “help” offered turned out to be further abuse and a load of crap. No Thanks, I don’t want any abuse pretending to be help. Not ever again. I choose to transform my trauma independently, on my own. Rumi, actual Rumi not Colman Barks fake Rumi, has been more of a trauma counsellor to me than any living person. So, women have created every human being on the planet, we are your eye candy and hood ornaments, we are rest stops for penises, we carry humanity’s baggage because we are the universal vessel, and now we are expected to validate paraphiliac men even in our trauma responses? Not to mention the expectation that we submit ourselves to rape in female prison so the rapists pretending to be women can live among their prey, it never happens though, right, Heather Mason and incarcerated or formerly incarcerated women, never happens!

Why does this need to happen to women? Why are you doing this to women? What have we done other than give birth to your pathetic asses? Are you next going to tell us that rapists and sexual harassers are the actual victims and the women they prey upon, the perps?

How many institutions has the AGP Brigade captured in its quest for total colonisation of female? Therapy/crisis centres/women’s centres, medical science, nursing, the legislature, the judiciary, the legal profession, the media, the publishing industry, Hollywood. Have I missed any? How have we gotten to this point where liberal feminists are cheering men with erotic target location errors + malignant narcissism, calling for the dismantling of all safeguards and calling any woman a bigot or nazi who invokes sexual reality + dares to set boundaries or have a trauma response? How have we gotten to this point in the discourse where everything uttered from the political left is a lie, where sex based rights are considered genocidal to trans people? AYFKM? Like I said, I’m not laughing.

Is there an end in sight? It’s time the narcs reframed their identities. All the adult cry bully-babies need to fcuk off now, validation day care is closed. No, rape survivors will not reframe their trauma to centre men in dresses with erotic target locations. Fcuk off with that garbage masquerading as human rights.

Genderism is 21st century Lysenkoism.